yeah, it's something i knew going into it (that both of my kids would have different experiences growing up), but i don't think anything ever quite prepares you for actually dealing with it, and this is just the beginning. even if seren's dad is game for susan going along with them on visits in the future, will it be ALL visits? will it be conditional (as long as she's well-behaved)? i feel like there is no good choice for me, where this is concerned, and i've pretty much just landed on winging it and following their lead. if susan wants to go and seren's dad wants her to go, then i'll let her. and i guess i will just take it from there. there is the temptation to overthink it or to make too many rules for it (that if it starts, it can't be conditional on his part and the treatment of her can't be different from his toward seren or whatever), but i think relationships are just far more organic than that, so i've landed on just feeling it out . . . for now, anyway. it's tough raising kids with such differences, isn't it?